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Conflict Management - Grade Level Programs


Lower Elementary Upper Elementary Upper Elementary- Middle School Bridge	Middle School-1 Middle School-2 High School

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Programs for all grade levels

LOWER ELEMENTARY

Don't Be Hot...
Don't Be Cold...
BeCool™

"1st grade teacher overheard a student tell a classmate to 'BeCool' as he was about to be disciplined; 2nd grade teacher overheard students referring to the videos on anger when trying to resolve a playground dispute; another 2nd grade teacher discovered a couple of students practicing the 4-step plan during recess. QUITE A TESTIMONY TO THE VALUE OF THIS SERIES."
-Christy Reinold, CA

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Chester the Cat and His Real Life Friends Will Show Students
the Secrets of Being Cool

"He teased me!" "She's a bully!" How many times a day do you hear this and more from your students? For kids, these are tough everyday problems that never go away -- problems they must learn to handle in order to protect themselves and learn lifelong conflict resolution skills.

Learning how to deal with these problems is a core skill that your students need now, and will use throughout their lives. For kids, these are tough everyday problems that never go away -- problems they must learn to handle in order to protect themselves and learn lifelong conflict resolution skills.

The powerful tool of peer video modeling has proven enormously effective in reaching all levels of students, from the behaviorally challenged to those who simply face everyday tensions at home, in the classroom and on the playground.

New Interactive CD: Chester and the
"Secret of Cool"

The BeCool CD is an engaging, hands-on interactive supplement to our best-selling BeCool: Lower Elementary Video Series. Six exciting games give children a change to practice the BeCool paradigm in everyday life situations. Teaches how to recognize feelings and make healthy, emotionally intelligent choices in responding to them. The perfect supplement to the BeCool Video Series.

Set of 5 CDs with Guide: $299
Order No. C43M (Mac)
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With Purchase of Complete BeCool
Lower Elementary Video Series: $149
Order No. C43LM (Mac)
Order No. C43LW (Windows)

DVD ORDER NO. 1043D
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Module 1
Coping with
Criticism

Coping with criticism isn't always easy. This BeCool module will help you teach your students the negative consequences of reacting like a victim or of responding like a hothead when being criticized, as well as the advantages of being assertively "cool."

Module 1: Criticism includes: 1 DVD (includes teacher-parent video) or 2 VHS tapes and 1 teacher-parent tape, Chester cartoon, and teacher's guide.

$149
DVD Order No. 1043.1D
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Module 2
Coping with
Teasing

For children in kindergarten through second grade, teasing can be an everyday headache. If not controlled, it can result in aggressive behavior, social withdrawal and a damaged self-concept, problems than follow a student into adulthood.

Module 2: Teasing includes: 1 DVD (includes teacher-parent video) or 3 VHS tapes and 1 teacher-parent tape, Chester cartoon, and teacher's guide.

$149
DVD Order No. 1043.2D
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Module 3
Coping with
Bullying

Bullies can make life miserable, even dangerous, for children in the lower grades. George and his friends model the use of anti-victimization strategies with unknown bullies while Aurora uses the 4-step Assertion Plan to cope with bullying from her friends in the form of peer pressure.

Module 3: Bullying includes: 1 DVD (includes teacher-parent video) or 2 VHS tapes and 1 teacher-parent tape, Chester cartoon, and teacher's guide.

$149
DVD Order No. 1043.3D
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Modules 4 & 5
Coping with
Anger

These two separate modules of the BeCool series help kids deal with all types of anger by using a simple 4-step plan. Students will see Taylor coping with Jay's anger after accidentally bumping into him, and see Morganne's reaction to Dominic, who thinks she "cheated."

Module 4: Anger/Others and
Module 5: Anger/Self each include: 1 DVD (includes teacher-parent video) or 2 VHS tapes and 1 teacher-parent tape, Chester cartoon, and teacher's guide.

Module 4: $149
DVD Order No. 1043.4D
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Module 5: $149
DVD Order No. 1043.5D
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UPPER ELEMENTARY

Don't Be Hot...
Don't Be Cold...
BeCool™

"In 30 years of teaching,
I've never seen anything that deals as effectively with teaching the skills of coping with everyday conflict situations as the BeCool series."
-Carol L. Soden, CA

Students Will Learn To Think Through
The Consequences of Their Behavior

Created expressly for learners functioning at the Upper Elementary Level, this 5-module program is the second in the BeCool series and continues the presentation of the BeCool paradigm of self-control and assertion training. This module uses real-live, everyday classic situations to model the effective use of assertive strategies, as well as the ineffective use of passive and aggressive styles in coping with difficult feelings and difficult people.

DVD ORDER NO. 1042D
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Module 1
Coping with
Criticism

There's not always a clear difference between helpful criticism and destructive nagging. This module teaches kids how to distinguish between valid and invalid criticism and how to cope with each. Your students will watch three video peers respond to parent, teacher and peer criticism, some valid, some invalid. They'll also learn the dead-end consequences of a COLD (victim-like) or HOT (hot-head) reaction.

Module 1: Criticism includes: 1 DVD (includes teacher-parent video) or 3 VHS tapes and 1 teacher-parent tape, and teacher's guide.

$149
DVD Order No. 1042.1D
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Module 2
Coping with
Teasing

In this module, your students will watch Jason and George cope with the teasing of bystanders as they learn a new video arcade game, see Danny deal with the teasing his new glasses bring him, and learn from Amy how to use the 4-Step Plan to stop the hurtful teasing from her big brother. They'll also learn that a COLD or HOT response to teasing usually results in more teasing and loss of self-esteem.

Module 2: Teasing includes: 1 DVD (includes teacher-parent video) or 3 VHS tapes and 1 teacher-parent tape, and teacher's guide.

$149
DVD Order No. 1042.2D
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Module 3
Coping with
Bullying

In this module your students will see how Jason and George avoid being "bully magnets" by assuming an anti-victim demeanor, and see Jodi use the 4-Step Plan to counter bullying peer pressure of friends who want her to ditch school. They'll watch Willie fend off pressure to drink and see Brian "Talk the Talk" and "Walk the Walk" (go to authority) to retrieve his stolen backpack.

Module 3: Bullying includes: 1 DVD (includes teacher-parent video) or 4 VHS tapes and 1 teacher-parent tape, and teacher's guide.

$149
DVD Order No. 1042.3D
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Modules 4 & 5
Coping with
Anger

These modules help kids deal with anger coming from someone else (Anger/Other) or with anger originating from within oneself (Anger/Self). Your students will relate to various situations and learn to recognize when another person's anger might be dangerous. Additionally, they'll observe video modeling of the 4-Step Plan to express anger in a constructive and useful manner.

Module 4: Anger/Others and
Module 5: Anger/Self each include: 1 DVD (includes teacher-parent video) or 3 VHS tapes and 1 teacher-parent tape, and teacher's guide.

Module 4: $149
DVD Order No. 1042.4D
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Module 5: $149
DVD Order No. 1042.5D
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UPPER ELEMENTARY /
MIDDLE SCHOOL BRIDGE

Don't Be Hot...
Don't Be Cold...
BeCool™

"This is the right program at the right time! Everyday we read about children responding to conflict, frustration and rejection in ways that are irrational and tragically out of proportion. "Losing It" teaches children how to recognize the inner messages that trigger this overreaction and how to use rational self-talk to put problems in perspective, control their feelings and act in their own best interest."
-Susan Simon, Principal

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Before Your Students Can
Handle Conflict They Must Learn to Handle Themselves!

"TALK YOURSELF OUT OF IT™"

BeCool: Losing It! teaches your students the self-talk techniques for avoiding turning a problem they can handle into one that they can't. Students in the late elementary and early middle school years are the most prone of all age groups to exaggeration and distortion of every-day events. The lightest expression of disrespect can trigger a reaction worthy of a declaration of war! Rejection by a classmate, a sharp word from a parent, even everyday frustrations are enough to send a preadolescent into a tailspin, and with overreaction the problem becomes worse.

DVD ORDER NO. 1048D
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Module 1
Disrespect 1

In part 1, Billy faces the disrespect of two classmates who decide to use him for spit wad target practice. After allowing his fantasies of retaliation to run their course, Billy realizes that losing it would only turn a problem he could handle into a problem he couldn't. Instead, Billy chooses to use BeCool self-talk strategies to keep his dignity and his cool. Modeled after the recent school shootings, Part 2 illustrates the ultimate form of losing it! Josh and Ryan have been brought to the breaking point by two bullies. We see how irrational self-talk encourages them to violence and self-destruction while rational self-talk helps them keep perspective and find an appropriate response.

Module 1:
Disrespect 1: 1 DVD or 2 VHS tapes, and teacher's guide.

$189
DVD Order No. 1048.1D
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Module 2
Disrespect 2

In part 1, Charlie almost lets himself be talked into helping some more popular peers cheat on their homework. His unrealistic appraisal of his own ability to attract friends fills his head with self-talk that supports giving in to the extortion. However, instead of losing it, Charlie uses rational self-talk to get in control of his thoughts, himself and the problem. In part 2, after allowing her mind and her thoughts to be unnecessarily influenced by peer pressure, Morganne uses BeCool self-talk strategies to neutralize her friends' coercion to drink alcohol. More than modeling good refusal skills, Morganne models self-talk skills related to self-control and self-respect.

Module 2:
Disrespect 2: 1 DVD or 2 VHS tapes, and teacher's guide.

$189
DVD Order No. 1048.2D
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Module 3
Failure/Frustration

In part 1, Evan uses BeCool self-talk skills to cope with frustration. Instead of letting his anger and his thoughts get the best of him and losing it when life seems to conspire against him, Evan keeps his cool by challenging the irrational and exaggerated thoughts that often accompany feelings of frustration. In part 2, Evan overestimates his abilities as a pool player and sets himself up for failure when he challenges a player whose abilities are way over his head. We see that failure has a dramatic effect on his future behavior. Irrational self-talk will lead to losing it. BeCool self-talk leads to the realistic acceptance of failure and risk-taking as integral to high levels of achievement.

Module 3: Failure/Frustration: 1 DVD or 2 VHS tapes, and teacher's guide.

$189
DVD Order No. 1048.3D
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Module 4
Rejection

In part 1, Troy loses it when he allows his own distinctive self-talk to interpret rejection by a close friend to be a sign that he is totally unlikable. When he uses BeCool self-talk instead, Troy realizes that, although the rejection is painful and will take some time to get over, it's not the end of the world and he can handle it. In part 2, Mindy is rejected by peers she thought were her friends. She loses it when she allows irrational self-talk to support her knee-jerk violent response to get even. When she uses BeCool self-talk, the rejection is put in perspective, cooling her anger AND keeping her from turning a problem she could handle into one that she couldn't.

Module 4: Rejection: 1 DVD or 2 VHS tapes, and teacher's guide.

$189
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MIDDLE SCHOOL - 1

Don't Be Hot...
Don't Be Cold...
BeCool™

"Undoubtedly the most effective program I've ever used to get Middle School-age kids to stop and think before they react to provocation!"
-Paula Portman, Social Worker

Immediate Cool Intervention -
Techniques for Immediate,
Controlled Responses

The middle school years can be the most difficult for students as they learn to deal with the challenging situations presented not only by interactions with their peers, but with parents, teachers and other authority figures. These five modules will help your students "put the brakes on" their emotions and let reason kick in when they are faced with provocative language, behaviors and requests in everyday interactions.

ORDER NO. 1044

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Module 1
Coping with
Criticism

Students will learn how to respond to valid and invalid criticism and how to explain their positions.

Module 1: Criticism includes: 1 DVD (includes teacher-parent video) or 2 VHS tapes and 1 teacher-parent tape, and teacher's guide.

$149
DVD Order No. 1044.1D
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Module 2
Coping with
Teasing

Using simple BeCool techniques, your students will learn four effective ways to quickly extinguish teasing.

Module 2: Teasing includes: 1 DVD (includes teacher-parent video) or 2 VHS tapes and 1 teacher-parent tape, and teacher's guide.

$149
DVD Order No. 1044.2D
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Module 3
Coping with
Bullying

Using the BeCool 4-Step Plan, students will learn to respond with dignity to bullies, peer pressure and sexual harassment.

Module 3: Bullying includes: 1 DVD (includes teacher-parent video) or 3 VHS tapes and 1 teacher-parent tape, and teacher's guide.

$149
DVD Order No. 1044.3D
VHS Order No. 1048.1V

Modules 4 & 5
Coping with
Anger

Two modules teach students to effectively respond to anger directed at them and to control their own anger.

Module 4: Anger/Others and
Module 5: Anger/Self each include: 1 DVD (includes teacher-parent video) or 2 VHS tapes and 1 teacher-parent tape, and teacher's guide.

Module 4: $149
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Module 5: $149
DVD Order No. 1044.5D
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MIDDLE SCHOOL - 2

Don't Be Hot...
Don't Be Cold...
BeCool™

"If you liked BeCool: Coping with Difficult People, You'll love BeCool: Give & Take. This new program teaches adolescents how to negotiate lasting resolutions of interpersonal disputes . . . skills they'll use all their lives."
-Susan Simon, Principal

RESOLUTION - BeCool Program
Teaches Negotiation Skills!

BeCool Give & Take expands the BeCool Middle School series beyond coping with provocation to actually teach kids how to negotiate long-term resolution of disputes. Students will learn how to use proven negotiation techniques to work out solutions to differences without involving demands, threats or intimidation.

DVD ORDER NO. 1047D
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Module 1
Give & Take
vs. Demands

Show students there are more effective ways to settle differences than by simply making DEMANDS. Introduces basic skills used by leading negotiators in government and business.

Module 1: Demands includes: 1 DVD (includes teacher-parent video) or 2 VHS tapes, and teacher's guide.

$189
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Module 2
Give & Take
vs. Intimidation

INTIMIDATION fosters anger and resentment and often leads to counter-aggression. Introduces the elements of a W.I.S.E. agreement, one that builds trust and leads to future cooperation.

Module 2: Intimidation includes: 1 DVD (includes teacher-parent video) or 2 VHS tapes, and teacher's guide.

$189
DVD Order No. 1047.2D
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Module 3
Give & Take
vs. Threats

Illustrates why using THREATS to influence authority figures is a bad idea and why negotiating an agreement that considers the needs of both sides is more likely to succeed.

Module 3: Threats includes: 1 DVD (includes teacher-parent video) or 2 VHS tapes, and teacher's guide.

$189
DVD Order No. 1047.3D
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Module 4
Give & Take
vs. Insolence

Show students how acting superior and entitled with authority is risky, especially with the police. It illustrates how to "respectfully cooperate" with authority figures to get them on your side.

Module 4: Insolence includes: 1 DVD (includes teacher-parent video) or 2 VHS tapes, and teacher's guide.

$189
DVD Order No. 1047.4D
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HIGH SCHOOL

Don't Be Hot...
Don't Be Cold...
BeCool™

"BeCool is the best series I've ever used in any class! This program generates more discussion than any other teaching material."
-Betty Christians, Living Skills Instructor, West Industries.

Special Needs Edition
Keeping Cool Through Adolescence

Winner of the New York Film Festival, BeCool: High School, is the original program of the series, which focuses on high school-age students and young adults as they make the transition to the "real world." The video scenarios depict ordinary conflicts of daily living and shows students how emotions, not managed effectively, can result in aggressive behavior, social withdrawal and loss of self-esteem.

DVD ORDER NO. 1041D
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Module 1
Coping with
Teasing

If not managed effectively, teasing can result in aggressive behavior, social withdrawal and loss of self-esteem. With this module, you'll help students understand teasing and why people tease, distinguish friendly from hurtful teasing, and learn how to effectively deal with this behavior using a variety of "cool" responses.

Module 1: Teasing includes: 1 DVD (includes teacher-parent video) or 3 VHS tapes and 1 teacher-parent tape, and teacher's guide.

$189
DVD Order No. 1041.1D
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Module 2
Coping with
Anger

With this BeCool module, you'll help students understand why people become angry, how to distinguish fair from unfair anger, and how to recognize when someone's anger is becoming dangerous. You'll help students effectively cope with this volatile emotion through "cool" and safe approaches that will last a lifetime.

Module 2: Anger includes: 1 DVD (includes teacher-parent video) or 4 VHS tapes and 1 teacher-parent tape, and teacher's guide.

$189
DVD Order No. 1041.2D
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Module 3
Coping with
Criticism

Criticism can cause resentment, misunderstanding and social withdrawal. Knowing how to cope with criticism will help your students improve their performance while maintaining their self-confidence. With this module, you'll define criticism for students, help them to distinguish valid from invalid criticism. Students will learn effective ways to "coolly" deal with criticism.

Module 3: Criticism includes: 1 DVD (includes teacher-parent video) or 4 VHS tapes and 1 teacher-parent tape, and teacher's guide.

$189
DVD Order No. 1041.3D
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Module 4
Coping with
Bullying

Dealing with bullying is a very challenging task for most people. Help students to understand bullying behavior and why people bully others, and to recognize dangerous bullying. The program demonstrates the benefits of various assertive or "cool" responses to bullying that will help students learn to deal with this serious and often terrifying problem.

Module 4: Bullying includes: 1 DVD (includes teacher-parent video) or 3 VHS tapes and 1 teacher-parent tape, and teacher's guide.

$189
DVD Order No. 1041.4D
VHS Order No. 1041.3V

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